Over Parenting Julie Lythcott Hams Summary

Summary The speaker of the TedTalk How to raise successful kids – without over-parenting, Julie Lythcott-Haims is the author of How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success (Lythcott-Haims). Besides writing a New York Times best selling novel Julie Lythcott-Haims was the former associate vice provost for undergraduate education and the dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising at Stanford University (Chesley, 2012). In the TedTalk, Julie Lythcott-Haims discusses over-parenting and the pressure parents put on their children to succeed. Parents want the best for their children and they are told that the best thing for their children is success, and to achieve this success they must get into

Reflecting on how I was raised I would not say that over parenting is completely bad. Being an only child it is understandable that my parents want to protect me from harm. My parents over parenting has taught me many positive things. It has taught me how to act with manners in different social settings, that I was loved and it taught me to how become hard working and self motivated. My parents always want the best for me and have always set high standards for me and with their love and support I was able to achieve these high standards. Over time I learned to create my own standards and I would strive to be better and do better. In high school I was confused about what career I wanted to go into. Just like what Julie Lythcott-Haims said in the TedTalk my parents believe that in order to succeed in life I would need to have a certain career and to get into that career I would need to get into a certain university. In high school I set a minimum grade that I wanted and every time I wouldn’t get that mark I would begin to believe my self worth and intelligence was based on that number. I put all my focus into school and getting certain marks that I missed out on joining clubs and different sports teams. But looking back it was worth it for me because I was on the honor roll all four years and I was able to get into the program and university of my choice. I was able to see that all my hard work paid off and I felt accomplished. Although my parents over parenting may get on my nerves sometimes, I know that they act that way because they want the best for me. Both of my parents are immigrants and they have always wanted me to have a better life. The way they know how to provide a better life for me if by over parenting to make sure I do well and succeed in life. I do agree with Julie Lythcott-Haims