Discovering a Minority Orientation Around the age of ten, most kids have an idea of what their sexual orientation was, whether it was heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, etc. I remember in Elementary there would be playmates of mine that would try to ask me out while we would be playing a fun game of handball or Dodgeball. After I had rejected them, I felt as though I hated them. I didn’t talk to them anymore or play with them, even when they would try to talk to me, I 'd ignore them or tell them to go away. Same story goes throughout Middle School. I was depressing to be with when my best friend had boyfriends or even talked about boys. Eventually I couldn 't stand it anymore. I left the three musketeers (me and two other kind and caring girls one year older than me whom I met in Cadet Corp. and Cross Country and saved me from my lonely middle school experience), and I tried to find just one friend whose mind wasn 't filled with the thought of boys. I was like a nomad, moving from group to group. I joined the school soccer team in high school and met another group. I had noticed by then that I had a tendency to get attached to people who made me work harder, who motivated me to give it my all. I stayed in my new friend 's group from 9th to 10th grade, and in the duration of these grades, I kept thinking …show more content…
During my 11th grade, it was that I discovered what I was. I took guitar classes after school and, finally, a knowledgeable pansexual in my class had known what I was. She knew at the time that I was rejecting boys and she knew why. "You 're asexual." she said. This word was unfamiliar to me, as was the term pansexual. The only thing that came to mind as a result of having taken a biology class was asexual reproduction. I asked her to explain. She continued, “Pansexual is when you are attracted to any gender and asexual is like the opposite. You don’t have an attraction to anyone.” I finally knew what I was; it felt as though a boulder was lifted off of my