We can all recall the one friendship that fell apart before our eyes. The one friend that said they would keep their promise. Friendships are strong bonds between two people. However, when they are made with such high expectations they could be the cause of fragile friendships that break. In Old English friendship is closely related to freondscipe “mutual liking and regard,” also “conjugal love”. Friendship is described as a mutual relationship. Regard, in Old French, means to “take notice of,” garder meaning to “look, heed”. Meaning that friendship is when you take notice of someone, or consider them when you see or feel certain qualities about them that you like. But from this, where did we get the friend code? If friendships were started based off of mutual likings towards each other, where does it mention that one friend has a say on how the other friend lives or acts?
The silent “friend code” is a set of rules that two are
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Before, love seemed to be unconditional. My grandmother’s generation lives in a world of “we”. It was never about just “me” or “I”, it was about “we” and “us”. She holds onto old friendships and doesn’t think about just herself. However, in the newer generations there is a “me” mindset. We are independent. As strong and heroic as it may seem, it is also very lonely. We think more about us than we do about others. When we think only about us, we only care what’s beneficial to our needs and don’t consider what our friends may feel. Friendships have become more self-centered. The more self-centered you are the higher the expectation is in your relationships. With these expectations you get the “best friend code”. If any one of the rules tied to this code are broken or misused, the friendship can break as a result. Even the strongest, closest friendships have broken because one single rule was broken. Even though the rules are silent everyone is expected to follow the rules of the