Living in a world driven by commercial messages about entitled happiness and freedom of choice, our relationships often bear the continuous burden of the misguided belief, that like the stuff we accumulate, our relationships too are disposable and interchangeable if they do not meet our needs. By expecting our relationships to make us happy and meet our needs, instead of recognizing their capacity to teach us how to love more, we refuse the daily, messy work of relating and learning how to communicate, negotiate and master shared difficulties and challenges. This misunderstanding impacts our ability to commit.
True happiness comes as a result of the sustained emotional investment in other people. Although there may be many a day when honoring
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We are so distracted looking for that ‘perfect soulmate’ that we aren’t letting ourselves fall in love with the little aspects. I believe that if we really want to fall in love we have to learn to let loose and not take it so seriously. Yes, some aspects are meant to be serious but overall, you really just have to let yourself be happy and have fun. In the end you end up realizing all the little things you love about your partner and you will realize they are perfect even if they are not the best looking person around, the funniest or the smartest, but they will be perfect to …show more content…
Thus, the closest we can get to perfection is the experience itself – the snapshot of a single moment held forever in our minds – never evolving, never growing. So rather than chasing an imaginary perfection, let’s start chasing life by flipping past the imperfections found on the cover of every entity we encounter and into the blank pages of possibility waiting beneath the cover that will eventually tell the story of our lives.
With a little patience and an open mind, over time, I bet that imperfect lover will evolve into a reliable lifelong companion. Perfection can be paralyzing, whether you are talking about a project at work or looking for your true love. Settling is not the answer, but being willing to do a little bit of work on your own adjusting and learning from another person’s quirks is what makes the journey so interesting. Finding someone who is as willing as you are to learn and adapt to the eventual changes we all go through is what makes that “happily ever after”