Adult Transition

Transition is a necessary process during our life. It makes us become an adult and handle more responsibility. We will grow up in order fit the society more easily. It will be changed a lot by the transition to an adult. Some of us just grow up by following the age, but some of us grow up because of some geographic events. I belong to the second one. Move to the United States is the transition point which belongs to me. Over dependence on parents are a common situation in most Chinese children, especially for years ago. I was living in China, because I am the only child in my family. I gathered all the love from my parents and become more and more dependent on them. All the parents did not want their children to worry about anything except

I knew nobody and nobody knew me. Because my horrible English, I even cannot talk to someone for help. At the point, I felt I want someone to stay with me to give me some support. And the person is my mother. The whole thing is too difficult for me to handle. I realize that I think I was growing up, but actually, I am not. The environment is completely strange for me. I can see lots of people own black hair about me but they are hard to keep close. Seems they all have lots of things to deal with, even does not take a look at me. I have to admit that loneliness is over the level I prepared. Finally I check out from the airport. Lots of people crowded at the exit, holding a name single or talking with someone on the phone. I did not see my name, even cannot find a familiar act inside of those people. This is the time I so closest to the unlimited fear and hopeless. Finally I found one people who can speak Chinese help me to get a place I should call it “home” for the rest four years. After settling down, I went out to see the city, I stand on the street felt I cannot fit in this environment. Lots of people passed by me, even their own black hair and brown eyes, I still can feel the distance between me and them. That is the first time I felt I was still a child needed to be taken care

After I fit into American school, I suddenly realize there are lots of difference between American education and the Chinese education system. Each student has his or her own goal. Some of them want to go to private school and some of them even do not want go to college. Each person has their own things to deal with. Unlike Chinese students, American students put after school activities at the same level as homework and college application. And seems like they can handle both very easily. Maybe this is the most different between American kids and Chinese students. I was pushed to believe that education is the only way to reach my goal since I was a little boy. I cannot go out to play with my friends, the only thing I can do is stay at home and study all the time. Maybe my parents over protect me, but this makes me more want to escape from the cage that my parents build for me. When I made friends with some my American classmate. I found out they always ask me go out Friday night which is the time almost all Chinese students stay at home to finish their weekend homework. Back to China, my mother pushed me to sit in front of the table at this time, but now I can go out with my friends, I felt free and happy. Base on the conservation with them, I felt I have the completely opposite thoughts about college. Most of them do not want go to 4 year colleges in the future because they do