- Keith and Zen were in love with each other for 12 years before they got married. As time passed by they began to feel that their relationship was becoming more like a prison than the wonderful life they imagined for themselves and promised each other. Either of them didn’t want to let go of each other as they were deeply in love but all they had now were fights and arguments. Seeing a Counselor seemed an option for them and after a few sessions of Couple therapy, they seemed to have worked on themselves personally which helped them get back their happy married life.
Myths
1) All you need is love
Who says that love is the only thing that is needed for a ‘happy marriage’? Are we over-rating love? Few questions that comes in my mind. However, it is very important to keep in mind that, love can be very subjective and we can term it anyway we want. But at the end all it might come
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I therefore avoid him and ignore his small talks till I am okay. He is completely clueless about my strange behavior and therefore is hurt that I am avoiding him. Now because he is hurt, he might choose to do the same (avoid) and without our knowledge we are trapped into a vicious cycle where trust, understanding and respect that we have for each other is affected majorly.
2) Love marriage vs. Arranged marriage
Most of us often have ideas about love marriages being more successful than arranged marriages and vice-versa.
Since we have already dated the person for long enough to know him/her, most of us have the notion that love marriages might be more successful than arranged marriages. Here, we forget the fact that dating a person is completely different than getting married and living with the same person.
Regardless of whether it is love or arranged, marriage comes along with responsibilities and requires patience to understand each other and work out through the odds.
3) If you fight, you are heading