Pressure Of Gender Roles In Society

Being pressured into conventional roles today is less common than back in the 40’s and 50’s when society had nothing but conforming roles for men and women in society. examples of this come from how men and women were brought up, culture and media. If it were not for these three factors gender roles would be farfetched. But unfortunately, there is still this pressure of gender roles and one way or another everyone has to make the decision of whoever they want to be and live with those roles. In this essay culture, media and how both men and women being raised affect gender roles and socialization. Growing up my mom and my dad were pretty accepting of anyone that I wanted to be. They allowed me to express myself in every way possible. When

This could mean their manners, clothing, behavior and specific tasks that go along with their gender. For this example, women will the point of focus. In the poem “Girl” written by Jamaica Kincaid, different scenarios are listed off as if it were a woman giving advice to a woman to be. An example is “this is how you hem a dress when you see the hem coming down so you can prevent yourself from look like a slut” (pp.469). expectations such as this were normal for women being called a slut because there was a thread hanging from your skirt means you’re a slut. Harsh names such as this for having a mere single string hanging from your skirt came from our ancestors; grandparents and even great grandparents. Another example is, “this is how you iron your father’s khaki shirt so that it doesn’t crease” (pp.469). standards for women started when it was necessary for them to wait on men hand and foot. During that generation women did not work, did not go to school, all they did was; stay at home, cook, clean and take care of the children while the men went to work and paid the bills. In the meantime, the young women who is listening to all of these lessons has a mind of her own, the young women keep coming up with “Buts and What if’s” for example, in girl written by Jamaica Kincaid, “But what if the baker won’t let me feel the bread” (pg. 470). This is the young

In “Bros Before Hos: the guy code” written by Michael Kimmel the difference in response between men and women when asked what it like is to be them is thought of completely different between them. When women were asked the question was pretty irrelevant to them. But when the men were asked they started to describe something called “Guy Code” “the collection of attitudes, values, and traits that together compose what it is to be a man” (pp. 541). This guy code is how men have to carry themselves and if they do not then they are called “pussies” or “gay” again these ideas come from more men maybe fathers, uncles, grandfathers. This “guy code” men have to follow is not just to impress women “Masculinity is largely a homosocial experience: preformed for and judged by other men” (Pp. 543). Men judge other men is a constant cycle. Men are taught how to be men by other men how ever your father was raised is how you are going to be raised. Guy land is an unsafe place while growing up if you do one wrong thing you be called a big list of negative names. “everything that is perceived as gay goes into what we might call the negative playbook of guy land” says Michael Kimmel (pp. 545). This gender role playing thing begins as early as the age of five for men starting with phrases such as “boys don’t cry” this carries out through there middle age years carrying a wide range of rules followed by