You've received the invitation and happily replied that you'll be attending. You've already purchased them a gift from their registry list and had it delivered. Maybe you've even participated in some of the pre-wedding festivities -- an engagement party or bridal shower. You've booked a flight for the big weekend, reserved a rental car and a room at a local hotel. It's their big day, and nothing will keep you from being there!
And then you get word: the wedding has been postponed.
There are probably a million questions running through your mind. If you aren't particularly close to the couple, it may be some time (or forever) before you find out what has happened. What should you do?
Here's some advice.
Wait.
Don't rush to the phone and
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A phone call will require you to be on your best behavior. Listen. Don't ask questions. Don't gossip. The person who calls you (whoever it might be -- maybe a wedding attendant) is probably doing their best at a difficult job. They've probably been told what to say and don't want to have to deviate from the script. Don't ask them to. If you receive the news by phone, all you need to say in response that you are sorry to hear the news. Perhaps ask the caller to extend your best wishes to everyone involved, and thank the caller for letting you …show more content…
Your next step will be largely determined by your association with those involved with the wedding. If you have been notified by phone, you have already officially acknowledged that you have received the news, and are not required to respond in any other way. If you were notified by mail, it probably came in the form of a note or card from the hosts of the weddings. You should write back to them very simply indicating that you received the regrettable news and that your good wishes are with them all. This is also a good tactic to employ if you received word via an answering machine (unless you were asked to call back an acknowledgement), so your hosts will know you got the