Lack Of Communication In Lord Of The Flies, And Growing Up

According to Fatherly.com, a new study has shown that around 70 percent of parents say they “struggle to communicate meaningfully,” with their kids. This would explain the gaps filled with difficulty in people’s lives. In Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson, Lord of the Flies by William Golding, and “Growing Up” by Gary Soto, lack of communication causes a distance within people’s relationships. To begin, Melinda cannot speak to her parents about what happened at Kyle Rodger’s party because it’s traumatic for her. During this part of the story, Melinda has no Halloween plans and doesn't want to tell her parents. She says, “This way I don’t have to admit that no one invited me to go with them. I’m not about to tell Mom and Dad that” (Anderson 39).

While Ralph was preparing for his speech for an assembly, it states, “He lost himself in a maze of thoughts that were rendered vague by his lack of words to express them” (Golding 76). This suggests that it is hard for Jack to show the rest of the boys on the island how he really feels. He cannot come up with words that express his feelings correctly. To add, During the assembly, Jack takes the conch and says, “Things are breaking up. I don't understand why. We began well; we were happy. And then–” He moved the conch gently, looking beyond them at nothing, remembering the beastie, the snake, the fire, the talk of fear. “Then people started getting frightened” (Golding 82). This quote shows how their miscommunication caused disagreements. The boys would always argue about topics such as keeping the fire alive and getting meat. Eventually, the boys split into separate groups. The boys were not good about communicating their needs, which lead to rivalry between

Maria told her parents that she was refusing to go on a family vacation with her family. She scolded her dad, “She knew that if she said, “Dad, I’m sorry,” she would break into tears. Her father wanted to come into her room and say, “We’ll do something really special this vacation. Come with us, honey.” But it was hard for him to show his emotion around his children, especially when he tried to make it up to them” (Soto 3). This proves that their miscommunication causes issues for both Maria and her father. Both of them want to say something about the situation, but instead, they're bottling up their emotions. To add, Maria’s mom was willing to let her stay because she knows that Maria didn’t mean what she said to her father, but Maria’s dad disagreed, “Sure, and that’s how she shows her love, by talking back to her father.” He rubbed the back of his neck and turned his head, trying to make the stiffness go away. He knew it was true, but he was the man of the house and no daughter of his was going to tell him what to do” (Soto 3). Maria’s dad does not understand that she’s growing up. With this, she just wants to have some independence. She talks disrespectfully towards her dad, but she still loves him. Maria’s family feels vulnerable when they show emotions; therefore, they don’t know each other’s