On The Outside-Yet Very Much Involved Summary

On The Outside - Yet Very Much Involved

This chapter ‘On The Outside – Yet Very Much Involved' is for the non-addict people who often are on the outside of the alcoholic or addict nightmare, but very much involved. We understand how tough it often is to move out from underneath the umbrella of another person's active addiction and addictive behavior. We are especially knowledgeable of the problems involved in making a decision to reclaim sovereignty over their personal lives and lifestyles. We also understand why some people choose to stay where they are. However, to attain their ultimate goal, they realize some things need to change. They believe by learning effective intervention strategies, especially conflict resolution strategies,

Empirical and scientific studies by addiction counselors, recovery coaches and professionals of other fields recognized, that the people closest to the person with an addiction problem often believe that they are personally responsible for the behavior of the alcoholic or addict.

Does this dialogue sound familiar to any of you?

“If only I was a better wife, husband, mother, father, daughter, son or friend then he/she would not be like he/she is … it's my entire fault he/she drinks and/or uses drugs”.

Clearly, this is not the case. However, unfortunately, without counseling or coaching most partners, children, family members and friends believe they are responsible for or cause another person's addiction and addictive behavior; thus avoiding the issue of their own enabling

Years of verbal and emotional abuse and character assassination has taken its toll on them. They are unable to separate what it is they are and are not responsible for, clearly they are not responsible for the thoughts, feelings actions and behaviors of another person, including their alcoholic or addict.

We offer online counseling and or recovery coaching services to individuals, couples and their families, who have been negatively impacted by another person’s active addiction and addictive behaviors. Combining different therapy models, intervention strategies, coping skills and teaching effective communication skills we will tailor an individual program to help the codependent family members and friends to emotionally detach from the dependent person, and focus on looking after themselves, while allowing the user to be responsible for the consequences of his/her addictive