It's worth mentioning that there isn't one certain way to manage one's grief, and it is only advisable to make your choices based on what feels comfortable to you. If, and when you feel comfortable enough to talk about your feelings, no one should tell you how you feel, not even yourself. Being able to share what you are going through, without being afraid of judgement, is vital to your process of healing.
You can take the lead by identifying dates, like birthdays or anniversaries, which can bring up painful memories and strong feelings. You can talk to supportive people around you before these events occur, letting them know they are memorable dates and establish what to expect. You can let them know how they can support and help you feel
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It's fine to be open about your needs and accept support from loved ones. It could just be having a shoulder to cry on or asking for help with taking care of the necessary arrangements connected with the loss.
Reach out to people you feel comfortable to be around with this period, such as family, friends, or even clergy members. Sometimes it does help to talk to people who have been in similar circumstances. A friend who has lost someone close to them is likely to share, understand, and connect with what you are going through.
With this sort of loss, people might tend to overcompensate with their sympathy, but this is only because they care about you and don't know what you really need. You should be clear about your needs, and understand that they are only trying to support you.
However, sometimes a listener might realize that they have no way of reducing your pain, while others might just want to reduce their own exposure to grief and would prefer avoiding you. This may leave you feeling like you cannot be open about your feelings, because of the consequences of alienation after disclosing them. Here are a few tips to help with this sort of