Talk Your Way Into A Better Relationship Paper

Talk Your Way into a Better Relationship

Shaquanna Hutchinson

Kean University Talk Your Way into a Better Relationship

This paper will reveal how effective sexual communication can not only result in a more satisfying sexual experience but additionally a more efficient relationship as a whole. I will discuss the sexual satisfaction that results from sexual communication and how sexual communication becomes beneficial for one's overall relationship. As well discuss how one’s self-esteem; both sexual and global, can play a role in the effectiveness of the sexual communication. I will then go on to express how the ways in which one decides to communicate can be deemed more beneficial than just approaching the situation with no thought behind

This simply means that the couple who plans to engage in sexual activities discusses; before or after the sexual activity, their wants and need to their partner and vice versa. Typically sexual communication is should be carried out by any two or more people who plan to or are currently engaging in any sexual experience with each other. Many researched have proven that there is a direct correlation between sexual communication and sexual satisfaction. For example, in a study conducted by Montesi, Fauber, Gordon, and Heimberg (2010) results concluded that like they that open sexual communication contributed uniquely to sexual satisfaction. This increased satisfaction is said to come from the partners being able to effectively communicate their wants and needs in a more vulnerable and nonjudgmental atmosphere (Montesi et al., 2010). Because the couple is now more open they are able to take in what they have been told and use that information to change or enhance their sexual

However, there is a right and wrong way to communicate. For example, where the conversation is held can sway the result of the conversation. Tone, word choice, and even gestures can all have a positive or negative result on the sexual communication. Harris, Monahan, and Shelly (2014) steered a study in which they had participant write about a time where they wanted their partner to try something new and how the partner responded. Researcher then focused on the strategies that the participants used then narrowed down to focusing on categorized strategies. The results determined that the most popular technique used was indirect behavior. Indirect behavior can be illustrated as one’s partner being nice all day prior to the asking of the request or even something as simple as showing the partner something in a magazine. The overall results showed that participant who started out at indirect behavior progressively became more direct and 42% of those participants were able to convince the partner into doing the sexual thing they requested (Harris et al., 2014). This all meaning that it’s more than just asking or simply saying you want this. One most takes the approach that is more suitable for their partner or even themselves. One should decide what it is that they would like to get accomplished and plan accurately as to how they can achieve