Parenting Advices from Amy Morin:
Amy Morin is a social worker, psychology instructor, and psychotherapist. She is the author of the book “The 13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don’t Do”. Those 13 things are:
1) “They don’t Condone a victim mentality”, which means that they don’t make their child feel as a victim because he has any life difficulties or disabilities. When children feel that they are victims they tend to stop trying and find it an excuse for not being successful.
2) “They don’t parent out of guild”, parents shouldn’t feel guilty for depriving their children from things that would harm them. Sometimes they have to say no.
3) “They don’t make their child the center of the universe”, such parents are from the permissive type; they want their child to be happy so they do everything he/she wants, which makes their kid irresponsible, spoiled
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They should give their children some freedom to explore and express themselves. Being too strict will mostly make children rebel, or weaken their personality since they don’t get to choose and live their lives the way they want. Those parents make kids “Anxious about the world”, because their parents are always worried that something is going to happen to their children and this feeling definitely reaches their kids.
5) “They don’t give their child power over them”: parents should be the ones setting the rules and limits not their children. Giving extra freedom can lead to a shift in the family hierarchy. Children should learn that there are consequences for their misbehaviors and their parents will always be the ones in charge.
6) “They don’t expect perfection”; parents shouldn’t pressure themselves and their children that they should be perfect in everything. This makes the children lack skills to deal with disappointments and would make them have harsh inner dialogue; which leads to many psychological