There are no two individuals who are born with the exact same qualities, quirks, or dispositions. People differ in ways such as: the way their environment absorbed, their perception of the environment, and even how they respond to their environment. Every individual perceives life and it’s surrounding environmental factors based on their own personal experiences, what they have been taught, and learned emotive responses based on previous experiences. Similar to this presented theory, many theorists disregard the term “personality” because it implies a fixed set of traits that individuals are supposed to carry with them throughout their lifetime even while dealing with diverse and eclectic situations. (Prochaska and Norcross, 2014). Prior to …show more content…
Many of these factors relate to an additional component that are innate to human beings, which is, the desire to be loved, and ability to form an intimate bond with another individual. This Intrapersonal Reflective Theory believes that early attachment bonds and their impact are a topic of high controversy because many people were deprived of them during childhood and now argue that they turned out “just fine.” This Intrapersonal Reflective Theory stands firm behind the belief that, forming a secure and healthy attachment at a young age is detrimental to relationships later in one’s life. Wanting to feel secure and loved is innate is all individuals; problems can potentially arise when those desires and needs are not being met by those who are closest to the individual. The attachment relationship (or lack-there-of), which begins forming at a young age, is where we create the idea of trust vs. mistrust, and this concept is the foundation for all relationships and interactions throughout one’s lifetime. This theory believes that if there is an insecure attachment formed early in childhood due …show more content…
What motivates an individual is very telling in regards to determining which level of existence they are putting more emphasis on. It should be considered whether people are making decisions with themselves and their own needs in mind, or if they forming their motivators and decisions with the desire to be accepted by others in mind? Being too “for one’s self” can be just as detrimental to an individual’s personality as being too “for others;” finding the equilibrium between each level is essential to experiencing complete harmony. Each individual is born with certain intrinsic and extrinsic drives; both can be healthy and both are necessary to succeed in life, but being able to maintain certain boundaries to ensure that one level isn’t being neglected while the other is overly saturated is key to ensure that one does not form what is called an other directed personality. Unfortunately, other directed personalities are becoming more and more pervasive; people are losing themselves and their core values and beliefs at the expense of being-for-others or being-for-nature. Finding that equal balance is important for maintaining a healthy directed personality. When people feel that they are being judged or critiqued by others, they begin to internalize these anxieties and alter their behaviors and feelings/ thoughts