The Pros And Cons Of Child Adoption

If you were being raised by parents you had no biological connection to, would there not be a desire to reach out to your “real family”? Initially most would say yes, however when they look into the reality, they may decide otherwise. When adoptees meet their birth parents at a young age, it may fill their home with arguments over family and legal issues, which can lead to disruption in all areas of their lives. Refraining from doing so can prevent trauma for the children, and is more considerate to the adoptive parents, and in the majority of cases it is far more beneficial for the adoptee to delay meeting them until adulthood.

Although the ties of blood should not be undervalued, the groundwork of a happy family life, lies not on DNA, but

If a young child makes the decision to seek out information about their parents and go in search of them, they may end up feeling defeated or unwanted. Their is the possibility that the initial knowledge about the adoption will be devastating. The child may want to know why they were not wanted by their parents, and sometimes there are reasons that may encourage them to believe they are wanted, for example it may be because the parent had a complete lack of resources or did not have the capacity to care for a child, and did not choose to give them away in such circumstances , however in many cases the parent may have been pregnant young and simply did not desire the lifestyle of a parent. There are endless disappointing scenarios that all have the same effect on the mentality of a young person. Unfortunately this is not the only situation that may cause upset. If they do manage to contact their parents, a child may be thoroughly discontented when they find out that the parent wants nothing to do with them, In some situations the parents may have been searching for their child, and there may be a mutual desire to meet, but sadly in many cases, parents want absolutely nothing to do with them, and the child is left feeling neglected and worthless. The initial idea of adoption can bring about some of this emotion, but to

Regrettably, many of the genetic parents have had their children forcibly removed from them and will be pursuing the child, however there is a reason that child will have been removed. These parens may struggle with alcohol addiction, drug abuse, violence, or there was “risk of emotional abuse” and therefore were deemed unsuitable to care for a child. They may torment the child trying to convince them to be a part of their life, or because they are angry at the child. They often feel that the adoptive parents have “stolen” their child and claim that they have “changed” the child, and this anger may be irrationally directed at the child, as the want them to choose to be with them. This can cause huge levels of disruption in the family life and can involve many stressful legal issues. Studies have proven that around 75% of birth mothers around 15 years after giving up the child will still experience extra grief about the situation, making them more liable to disrupt the child’s life. This is a huge thing to have to worry about and may affect not only home life, but the child’s school life as well, as ability to concentrate on class will go down, with their minds being in a different place. As an adult the adoptees will be able to fend for themselves and there will be no stressful situations involving legal ownership of the