The Victorian host had to have the perfectly proper tea party. The tea party was never “just a tea party” to the Victorian women. The party could mean their whole reputation. If they wore or said the wrong thing, or showed up at the wrong time then their reputation was gone. That is why the host always made it clear about the time place and appropriate apparel. There are many reasons why a Victorian host would throw a tea party. Occasionally they simply throw a tea party just to catch up with friends. They also throw a tea party for someone 's birthday, an anniversary, new job, a baby’s arrival, and many other reasons. Even though there are many reasons to throw a tea party there has to be at least three people at a tea party for it to be