Is it Okay to Spank Your Kid?
As adults, how would we feel when somebody in a higher position said some very rude remarks about us? Certainly insulted! That’s how children feel when their parents spank them. They feel insulted, helpless and in some cases insecure. They trust their parents the most and feel that trust broken when they are spanked. Therefore, spanking is not at all okay for your kid. In fact it is ineffective and even dangerous.
It is ineffective because it does not get the child to think rationally that how and why his misbehaviour affects people around him. He just learns that in order to avoid spanking he must behave properly in his parents’ presence, but not necessarily in their absence. Spanking is dangerous too because it can injure the child, both physically and emotionally. Spanking indirectly teaches a child that it is okay to use aggression and violence to get what you want. The child may imitate this behaviour by
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But, they shouldn’t. At such times they should withdraw from the situation telling the child to meet them when he has calmed down and ready to talk out things with them. No need to feel defeated. You are just sending a message to your child that you expect him to talk to you respectfully.
4. Give an alternative
There are situations in which children just won’t listen to you. They will throw a tantrum even in a public place and will insist on having their way. They can get on to your nerves. In such situations, give them choices or alternatives. A child insisting on having an ice-cream when he has a sore throat can be one such situation. You can firmly tell him that you won’t buy him an ice-cream that day, but if he behaves, you will buy his favourite one for him once he gets well. If he still insists, tell him in a short and firm sentence “You won’t get an ice-cream today.”
5. Explain the