“How come you’re always been so loving and caring towards me? I’ve made so many self-depreciating jokes even I wouldn’t be able to want to be around myself anymore!” As a person with a naturally empathetic personality, even caring for a stranger I’ve barely met is normal for me. I’ve always been able to easily connect with people with my extrovertedness, even as a child. But even when I was younger, I began to recognize that not everyone is wired the same way. I first began to see this in a childhood friend, [who was the polar opposite (rephrase later)]. “Why don’t you want to make more friends and play with everyone else?” “I just really don’t want to because I don’t like being around people”. This statement shocked me, and I realized there were people who were not nearly as social as I was, I became curious. To try and understand them better, I started following their lifestyle. But being a little girl who didn’t understand that changing for others can in fact change yourself, I fell down too deep. Becoming introverted and eventually insecure progressed to the point …show more content…
The name of the book is called Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. In the book it teaches you how to say no in situations you would never have said no to before to because you wanted to be accepted by others. It teaches you how to manage your life so you are not constantly feeling forced to say yes to thing that don’t benefit you. the benefit of others and not yourself. My mentor’s name is Heather Hughes, she is a christian therapist. She chose this book because of it’s spiritual relationship with God. The book is written by two therapist who have helped many people with establishing healthy boundaries and going on and living full, vibrant lives without guilt and doing things to be accepted by others. Instead they encourage positive self esteem and to value yourself, who you are and understanding each person has