Breaking The Effectiveness Of The Counseling With A Client

The purpose of this paper is to explain how a counselor’s characteristics and behavior can either make or break the effectiveness of the counseling with a client. In the case study given the client, Bob, meet with the counselor, Steve, to help and articulate the issues that are happening in Steve’s household. Throughout this paper, I will break down the effective characteristics and the ineffective characteristics that were shown throughout the session.

Effective Characteristics When being an effective counselor, you will have to incorporate different characteristics to make sure that the client is safe and confident that you will provide the open-heartedness during each session. 100 percent of counseling comes from being a helping person.

This was shown when Steve was able to make Bob realize that failing did not mean imperfection and that he was just repeating what his mom put him through when he was a child to his own family. This was effective because Steve listened to Bob and asked him questions that lead up to him realizing that by sitting back and reflecting on events that happened in the past is the past and by doing the total opposite of what his mother did to him, Bob will be able to love his family his own way instead of thinking that imperfections equal failure. Steve also used his counseling micro skills, reflecting skills, to make Bob realize that what he was doing was hurting his children. The reflecting skills stimulate a deeper exploration and understanding of the problem so that the client can examine the issues more objectively (Erford, B,

When you first meet your client for the first time you cannot be aggressive or that will put up a wall that will take forever to break down. Also, remember that being arrogant, making everything that you say is right, is another way that a client will put a wall up or never come back you for help.

Characteristic One In the beginning, of the case study, Steve twisted Bob’s words, making Bob defensive about what he said and instantly there was an awkward silence. Being aggressive like that can make a situation awkward and having that awkwardness will not build up a relationship between the both of them because Bob now probably have that instinct in his mind that Steve thinks he beats his wife. So to avoid that situation, just do not be so aggressive in the first session because you want to get to know the client before making asking those types of questions.

Characteristic Two When you keep on trying to persuade someone to do a task that they don’t want to do yet because they are not ready, you are trying to force an issue and use your power and not be considerate of the client’s feelings. Steve did this by constantly asking Bob to bring his wife into the session, instead of trying to get to Bob’s feelings. Steve is being arrogant in this situation by trying to push Bob to bring his wife instead on working on one person at a time. Counseling takes time there is no need to rush progress, you have to remain patient and