This paper is about the counselor qualities and how they are important for a good relationship client – counselor. As known, counselor qualities can be defined by many criteria like the core conditions and the listening skills that will be developed in the paper. Moreover, the relationship between the counselor and his client is one of the most important things to the good function of the therapy. To respond to the subject: “Discuss the way in which counselor qualities are important to the success of the counseling relationship”, there will be two sections. The first section focuses on the core condition and how do they help de improve the relationship.
- What are they?
- Why they are important?
- And how do they have an impact on the relationship?
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They had to work in small groups answering questions. The questions were about three things, (1) how do they know when they are being listened and when they are being ignored, (2) how does it affect their feeling when the listener is acting a way or another and (3) how the image of the person who is listening can be change by his behavior. They founded out that it is important to look after they behavior, it is more supportive for the client to have eyes contact that will make a communication. They also said that they feel listen when there is an encouragement to talk, a good proximity, a good posture and an open position. They feel ignored when they are no eyes contact, interruption, distraction from the listener, and when he does not showed any reaction or asked a question. The result of this is that the body language is also important for the listening skills. They also founded out that being listening they feel respected but most of all they feel intelligent, valued and liked. They feel that the person who was listening to them were respectful, concerned, attentive and empathic. When they are ignored, they are hurt, not interesting, and do not know how to …show more content…
The way that a counselor listens to his client tells the client if he wants to end this conversation or if he wants to improve this relationship. Active listening help in two way for the relationship, client feel in touch with the listener and it help them realized that they are allowed to think about what they will say, that they will be able to go to the end of their thought without being interrupt and judge (Clark). The paraphrasing is important for the relationship, the client, when the counselor paraphrase, go deeper in them. To go inside them, they must be a person that they trust in front of them. The fact of paraphrasing improves the confidence in the relationship. Finally, Carlo also said that paraphrasing help to make the client feel safer in the relationship. For Angus and Kagan, helping skills like active listening, asking questions and reflecting content and emotions is an important way to develop a secure place with the client, in other words, building a