Generational Cycle Of Abuse Affect The New Generation Essay

How Does the Generational Cycle of Abuse Affect the New Generation?

The book I have chosen as the focus of my yearly project is “It Starts with Us” by Colleen Hoover. This book presents the theme of abuse from the perspectives of both the abuser and the abused. I chose this book because before reading this book, I was not aware of the significant detrimental effects of abuse, but in the end, I realized it and it has affected me deeply. This book especially demonstrates the cycle of generational abuse and the difficulty in breaking it. The generational cycle of abuse is a destructive pattern perpetuated throughout several generations until someone decides to break this vicious cycle. This essay seeks to address the disadvantages that could be

First of all, growing up in an abusive house might cause various mental health problems which may affect the rest of one’s life. For instance, anxiety, depression, anger and trust issues, low self-esteem, and lack of self-love. In the book, Lily -the main character- grows up in an abusive house. She witnesses a lot of verbal and physical fights, and unfortunately, sometimes she is the one who harmed. One’s most important years to gain a personality are the first seven years of their life. This viewpoint is corroborated by many mental health experts, who state that ‘In those first seven years, in particular, our brains are being programmed just like a computer – but sometimes it all gets wired up in the wrong way with devastating consequences.” (Centres for Health & Healing) If one spends these significant years in an abusive house, their personility will affected in a destrucitve way. At the start of one’s life, one will be under the influence of their parents in developing their inner beliefs about themselves. (Centres for Health & Healing) If one experienced a significant amount of humiliation and saw anger for every small thing they did, from breaking the glass to forgetting the lights on,

For example, a person who is not satisfied with their life might look into escape from their poor circumstance. In the beginning with the purpose for only relaxed and not think their family might turn into an addiction in their old ages. In the book, Lily throws herself from home to not see her dad and her mom and she uses ciggarettes and alcohol to stop thinking and relax herself. In the following pages, when Lily becomes an adult she drinks every day at least one bottle of alcohol. In Maté’s view “All addictions are attempts to escape the deep pain of the hurt child, attempts temporarily soothing but ultimately futile.” (Bassil) He adds “Nobody’s saying that every traumatized person becomes addicted. I’m saying that every addicted person was traumatized.” Moreover, usage of substance especially if it turnes to addiction inevitably affected one’s health and social life. Usage of substance might have excessive amount of detrimental effects on users. Some of them are high blood pressure, cancer, heart disease, stroke, liver disease, and digestive problems. Even having the one of these diseas might affects rest of one’s life. They need to use exorbitant amount of money for their healing, medicines and see a disproportionate number of treatment. Most probaby, they will not have this amount of money, even they have the healing is a hard and