Iris Anderson Hour 6 Welsh 22/1/2023 RP: Grief Girl and dealing with Grief due to Loss “I just feel so depressed and frightened. Like I’m in a bad dream and I can’t wake up. It’s like I’m in shock over and over and over again.” (Vincent 155). It has been around a year since Vincent's parents died and she is still struggling with grief that is impossible to get rid of. Erin Vincent's memoir, Grief Girl details her struggles with grief after the unexpected loss of her parents, showcasing the lack of understanding and resources within society to support those dealing with the same emotions. Erin Vincent illustrates throughout the memoir the many attempts of trying to gain stable footing amidst grief and loss, regardless of the many attempts …show more content…
At this point in the story, Vincent is being questioned by some mean girls at school. The mean girls proceed to grumble about how lucky she is to have deceased parents. Vincent then retorts back to herself in her mind, about all the struggle and grief that comes with the loss of her parents. Which is showing that even though it may seem normal from the outside, inside nothing is adequate, nothing is fine, nothing is OK. The author makes this comparison to show an attempt to get through this maze of grief so that it gives a narrow view to the reader of what Vincent is going through. To illustrate this idea further, Vincent describes a way she failed to cope …show more content…
To understand this better, first the concept of grief and what it means has to be understood. For instance Dr. Ryback describes how there are many things that contribute to how people deal with loss and grief. An example of some ways that influence how others deal with grief is, culture, who is supporting them, and how they are supporting them. How close they were to the person they lost, or just how they tend to cope with smaller types of loss. (paraphrasing). That is to say, grief is influenced by many different matters. Even just discovering one minuscule detail of why the victim of loss is reacting to their grief in a certain way, can lead to a path of more and eventually to the very end of the path, where they can start fully understanding their grief. This evidence highlights how understanding grief is a very complicated and messy process and that there are lots of different causes behind people's reactions to grief. Additionally, grief is often described as 5 main stages, “Persistent, traumatic grief can cause us to cycle (sometimes quickly) through the stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. These stages are our attempts to process change and protect ourselves while we adapt to a new reality” (Stanaway). Literally speaking Stanaway is stating that grief cannot just be simply expressed with one