I have three daughters, but the oldest two are the eldest of our five children. My firstborn girls are close in age, being born only nineteen months apart. As their mother, I can see all of the endless changes as they grow into their own person, transforming into the beautiful women they will become. They compliment each other well when they are together, but they each have their own assorted likings and distinct perspectives on life. And although they are extraordinarily close, they are remarkably dissimilar, as much so as daylight and dark. In fact, I often refer to them as peanut butter and jelly. One is sensitive while the other is confident, one is family oriented while the other is influenced more by her friends, and one finds studies more important compared to her sister who finds being social more …show more content…
She has a strong aversion to authority and is frequently quick to get angry over insignificant things, or if she even thinks that someone is correcting her or attacking her point of view. My younger daughter, Raanan, is quite the opposite. She is a very confident girl, not wanting or caring to have her thoughts and actions validated by her peers. Raanan is very comfortable in her own skin, and as her mother, I have to admit that absolutely adore that about her.
In addition, I have found that the younger daughter places more emphasis on family approval and guidance. Raanan regularly looks to us for support when she needs help with a problem, which is not often; she will come to me, her stepdad, or her father for advice. Then, on the other hand, we have Ravelyn who blatantly refuses any offers of assistance from her family. Lately, it seems that she has placed her friends on a pedestal and declared that they are her family, and goes to them for guidance. I understand that this is normal behavior for preteens and teenagers, but it does not make it any easier to