Nonverbal Immediacy Self Assessment Paper

The other person who completed the nonverbal immediacy self-assessment with me was Celike Elezi. She is my mother, as well as the one person that has always helped me become a better listener and communicator. Based on our assessments it turns out we have many differences when it comes to our nonverbal behaviors and I have a whole lot more to learn from her. Me personally, I am still learning and improving on becoming a better communicator. Few areas I seem to still struggle with when communicating is maintaining eye contact, having a tense body position and not using my arms and hands to gesture while talking to people. I must say I am overall a very shy person. When thinking back to elementary or high school days, I was always the quiet

But also, when it comes to that a lot has to do with who I am communicating with and what the topic is. I have noticed in multiple job interviews I have been through that due to me being nervous it would become even harder to keep eye contact, and also have a very tense body position. However, this is not the case with my mother. She tends to always be so calm, and comfortable when communicating no matter the person or topic. I am constantly asking her on how she remains so calm and herself when she is talking to people and she always tells me, “Because what do I need to be nervous or awkward for? If I don’t understand something, I will ask for clarify. If I say something wrong I will apologize and correct myself. And simply listening, smiling and making the other person feel comfortable when talking to you can lead to a great conversation.” However, one nonverbal behavior she admits to lacking on is not ever being comfortable to touching others on the shoulder or arm while talking to them as a gesture of comfort. She states that she tries her hardest to make people feel comfortable and better with her words. However, the way I see it, sometimes we might