Online Dating In Aziz Ansari's Modern Romance

Aziz Ansari published his first book Modern Romance, on June 16, 2015, where he teams up with notable sociologist to uncover the mysteries of the changing social and dating scene around the world. Ansari states that relationships, have been evolving for the past century for reasons from changing technology to people having different wants and desires. These developments have revitalized the dating culture, but has also made it very complex. Ansari’s reason for writing this book was that he was “fascinated by the questions of how and why so many people have become so perplexed by the challenge of doing something that people have always done quite efficiently: finding romance” (Ansari 6). Throughout the book he dives into the logical conclusions

As Ansari’s research unfolds he realizes that this evolution is not only because the technological advancement but also, they the immense change in how societies view finding love. Many studies on online dating have been established that helped prompt Ansari to write his book Modern Romance. The Guardian Soulmate Blog has produced an excellent article discussing the numerous reasons why online dating websites have been on the substantial increase. During David Cox’s article, Online Dating – What’s driving the popularity boom, the evidence shows that many people as willing to explore online dating because “people are busy and it is has to meet people when you are busy.” Similarly, online dating has been on the rise because “it takes away that difficult initial approach and the fear that you’ll just embarrass yourself in front of a

While Ansari believe that “a book wouldn’t be as fun as my idea for standup,” he is still able to include humor without overlooking the importance of his argument. The way that Ansari uses humor which is so successful is that he throws in a funny line right after he introduces a new argument. This humor “allows the reader to ease up, and as a result they are more open to the proposal you have to offer” (Lunsford and Ruszkiewicz). Ansari’s research proved that there are two distinct phases during a relationship. The first is “the beginning, where you fall in love and everything is new and magical. The, after a certain point, maybe a few years things het less exciting and more routine” (214). While some people might try and argue that their relationship has never lost their flame of excitement, Ansari puts them in their place by using the analogy that “love goes from feeling like I’m doing cocaine to feeling how I feel about my uncle” (Ansari 215). This implementation of humor helps the reader understand the vast differences between the two stages of a relationship. Similarly, while Ansari discusses how much people in the modern dating world overthinking the simplest conversations, he introjects the word DAMN! This humor touch empathizes how ridiculous it is that people fight to have the upper hand by deliberately waiting more time that the other person in replying to