Overreacting In Your Relationship By Suzanne Phillips Summary

1. “Overreacting in Your Relationship: Reasons and Remedies” Suzanne Phillips
In this article, Suzanne Phillips writes about what causes overreactions, and how they can be overcome. She talks about how relationships bring out the best and the worst in each person. Overreactions are like flash floods; it can break out of nowhere for any reason, like something as simple as “you forgot the milk!”. This happens when unintended provocation builds up to a certain point until it’s too late. When this happens, it is difficult to untangle what has happened and consider ways to handle it. If physical violence gets involved, then there are no questions, help is needed because safety comes first. Most partners blame each other and want them to change, but what we know about change is that we are more successful in changing ourselves than trying to change people or getting help to be changed. There are some remedies that can benefit both partners. The first is to hear each other out and try to work things out together,

This relationship is very important to me because I hope to spend my future with her, and if we do not have good communication, then our relationship will not last. She has mentioned to me before that I often overreact or I hurt her feelings through my tone of voice, but I never saw it as a problem. After analyzing our arguments over the past year, I realized that she was right. During arguments, my anger often causes me to overreact and I demonstrate my feelings through my tone of voice. When I was presented with the Personal Goals Project, I felt that this was the perfect opportunity for me to work on these bad habits so that I could better my relationship with my girlfriend. While researching for information regarding overreactions and tone of voice, I have gained a lot of insight that I can use to make my relationship with my girlfriend