The number one thing I’ve learned in this entire process is that the only way anyone can rise from the ashes and make something out of the debris that is their life is to change themselves. I’m not talking about changing your zip code, or rearranging your face or other body parts. I’m talking about digging deep, looking within and taking responsibility and accountability for your own mess. For me, I had to accept that I should have never married my husband; I knew he wasn’t the man for me. I have to accept that I was impulsive and emotional and didn’t plan or prepare for my next step after telling my husband I was done. I had to look around at my situation and realize that even though he did this or she did that or they did whatever I was the