Why do people have the need to hide? As children, people have always been told to be themselves and let their true selves come to life. That takes form when kids easily share their favorite things in class or imagine what they want to be when they grow without any constraints. Yet at the years progress, the truth dwindles. People hoard secrets, often becoming larger than their favorite food, that are often bigger than them. One of the common cases is adoption. Between the obvious cases where the child looks nothing like the parents to adopted kids who are a carbon copy of their family, many families chose to hide the fact that they adopted. This causes the child to often have differing ideas about themselves. Looking at the psychology behind …show more content…
Parents always want what is best for their child. That is the goal of a mother or father, to give the best for their child, the most innocent and pure thing on the planet. With adoption, they are choosing to take on that role for a child who was not at first their own. Thus, a larger responsibility comes to be, and that is honorable. Yet these parents are often new to parenting; they might think they know best but that gets complicated when the child may not be a baby, especially when they come from another country. In America, “[c]hildren adopted internationally are at risk for adjustment and relationship develop concerns in their new family setting” (Zeleke). Not only are these kids with parents who were not there with them from birth, but they are often coming from difficult situations that are a lot to take in as child. In order to be up for adoption, there is usually a sad narrative that starts the child’s life. Often with international adoption, the child will probably never know their biological parent. Unlike in America, the parents often do not want to be found. Whether the child was out of wedlock, the parents died, or it is illegal to have another child,