Obviously, all factors to consider are important in your decision. Some may come as a surprise, others you inevitably think of. This is seen in the query of adopting babies or older children. The decision in raising a child from birth to a toddler, young child to a tween, or a teenager is one of the foremost significant decisions you will need to make. While a baby gives you the opportunity to go through all the stages of raising a child from diapers, potty training, first day of school until graduation. There are advantages to adopting a bigger child; unavoidably, you may have a challenging time with the adjustment phase. People who have adopted older children frequently mention the importance of a healthy sense of humor. The ability to laugh at …show more content…
Some children are big enough to realize what is going on. Even those that do not understand can be affected at a profound level. Even though, the grief process is difficult, it is essential in continuing to function. Some will have a second chance with a new family; subsequently, these losses may be placed into the unconscious mind, they will always be with the children, they can be reawakened to cause separation anxiety. As an adoptive parent, you should be aware of these signs, while always being prepared to reassure the child. Covert losses are issues that numerous adopted children suffer with. Often an adoptee may feel intense emotions over this. While, they are not obvious to anyone around them hence, the term “covert”. One such loss lowers self-esteem because of apparent abandonment or rejection by birth parents. Another is a feeling of deprivation because one does not know one's medical, social, or cultural history (Nickman 6). As an adoptive parent, you should not feel bitter towards a child for being interested in their birth parents. Curiosity is natural, this does not mean you are less significant to the