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Two Justice Childhood Love Lessons By Bell Hooks

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Dominique Anderson 3-30-2024 Childhood Love Lessons Essay Love is a powerful emotion that we cherish because it is so wonderful that we don’t want to do anything to lose it when we have it. Abuse is a powerful emotion. It is very disruptive in many ways. Hooks wants readers to know love and abuse don't go together in a child’s mind. love is supposed to make you feel cared about and abuse in a loving parenting space confuses children because they are not expecting physical abuse to be a part of love. in our age, people mix love and abuse. Parents mix love and abuse because of the way their parents treat them, that’s emotional abuse. Hurt people, hurt people. One piece of advice to support my thoughts is a passage from Bell Hooks's Two Justice Childhood Love Lessons (hook 9). There was a point made that studies show males and females who were violently humiliated and abused in a cycle with no care are likely to be dysfunctional and will be …show more content…

For example, they grew up hearing statements from their parents like “It’s better for your good” or “This hurts me more than it hurts you” when they were being abused. Abuse and love have a powerful meaning, but they can’t fall together in any shape or form. Parents who were abused as children will have a different, more harmful look at love and discipline. Abusing kids can only cause harm and no love. Disciplined love is patience and understanding. Kids don’t know better, so you take your time and teach them right from wrong. Disciplined abuse is unkind and a cruel punishment. Abuse love is confusing to the child's mind because why would you hurt someone then turn around and say you love them? The parent's choice to abuse them will make a child think that's the only way of discipline, then they will do their kid the

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