In the memoir Year of impossible goodbyes, Sookan changes from someone who is not included and scared, and becomes someone who is strong and stands up for herself. This change is see in three moments: when her family didn't include her in key details, when she had to fight through school, and when she trooped myself to South Korea to start a new life. In the beginning of the book, Sookan wasn't always given information on what was happening with her family situation. "I looked at the quiet, deserted yard and began cleaning up the breakfast table (Choi 10)." The quote shows how Sookan has fairly easy tasks to do for her family, even though she knows they're in rough times. It changed the way she sees her family and their judgement. Sookan now