While in the pursuit of a successful life there are a few things you can be certain of. You will face adversity at some stage and you will also fail at some point in your life.
However, what separates someone who is successful from someone who is not is how they deal with adversity and failing.
"The successful people are the ones who learn how to overcome it [failure] and the unsuccessful ones...are the ones who want to wallow in it. They'd rather complain about what happened to them and whose fault it was and why it happened." - Bill Bartmann
Bartmann certainly has had more than his far share of adversity. However, rather than let adversity crush him, he has used adversity to strengthen his character and forge a formidable mindset - a mindset programmed to create wealth.
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Bartmann, many times. But somehow, they never quit." - Clarence Thomas, U.S. Supreme Court Justice
And Bill Bartmann has identified that there is 3-step process of dealing with adversity. Progress through these three steps and you will achieve success.
1. Grief
This is when we focus on what we have lost. The problem for many people is that they stay stuck at this step. They wallow in self-pity sharing their tales of woe with anyone who cares to listen.
They seek to apportion blame and they question how life could be so cruel. They don't accept responsibility for their life and so relinquish the power to change their current reality to one that is more pleasing.
2. Gratitude
This is the stage when you appreciate and focus on what you still have as Oprah Winfrey said:
"If you look at what you have in life, you'll always have more. If you look at what you don't have in life, you'll never have