The advice I would give to divorced parents planning to remarry to ensure that they are decreasing the negative effects of stepparents on children’s transition to adulthood would be for the whole family (stepparent, stepchildren, co-parents, etc…) to join programs and seek out more in-depth counseling that would help to ease all of them into the process of remarriage. I would tell parents that the feeling of loneliness or fear of being forever alone can motivate you to make some very volatile decisions. You must make sure that getting remarried is not only the best decision for you, but also for your children. What kind of future do you want for your children? Do you want them to go to college? Get good paying jobs? Be able to support themselves …show more content…
Your daughters are more likely to run than your sons. If they stay at home with you until they are eighteen, depending on the relationships between their stepparents and/or stepsiblings, instead of going to college they may just take a job and move out. I know that this seems like it would be an ok way to live. But again, what do you want for you children? Do you want them to have a good life? Do you want them to be able to have and maintain healthy relationships? Children who leave home early, never really learn how to hold down a job, due to lack of education they never earn enough to have a stable living situation and they also lack the knowledge of the beneficial ways on how to deal with their emotions, so they are unable to have healthy adult relationships in their lives. Your daughters could fall into an abusive relationship. Do you want your children to be able to come to you, even live with you, when negative unhealthy situations have formed in their lives? Depending on the relationship between your new spouse and their children, your children are less likely to return home. This means your daughters will continue to stay in the abuse, and so will any grandchildren you may have, rather than return home to you. Why? Because they never really felt like they belonged, like they were a part of your family, after you got