Personal Conflict Situation Analysis

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Introduction
Conflict happens with everyone. Most people see it as negative, but conflict can have a positive outcome. This paper will explain a conflict situation that happened in my life and how I reacted to it at that moment. It will then also explain what could have happened if a different approach was used, maybe it could have turned out better not only for me, but for all the parties involved.
Personal conflict
I faced many conflict situations in my life where I had no idea how to deal with it or what I could do to make things better. I always saw conflict as a negative thing and something that will end up in damaged relationships, but Weeks (1994) explains how conflict can be seen as positive in many occasions. Anstey (1993) also explains …show more content…

When I sat in the car and I got so angry that I raised the tone of my voice, instead of doing that I could have first looked at where all this anger is coming from. Am I actually upset about the teacher or is it with the leader and trying to get to the root of the anger (Patterson, 2012, 107). By knowing the root of the anger, I could have dealt with it differently. We would often have group meetings and things were discussed in the meetings. I never told my feelings. If I made an appointment with the leader I could have dealt with the feelings in a more respectful mature way (Patterson, 2012, …show more content…

The human needs theory, reasons that conflict can be caused by the non-satisfaction of human needs. And to resolve it we need to communicate, analyse and satisfy the needs in order for the conflict to be resolved (Mason & Rychard, 2005, 1). We had goals while being in Lesotho, but we had different goals and this lead to the conflict. The leader and I never spoke about it. The leader did her own thing and the group did their own thing. This resulted into conflict. There were culture differences which I needed to understand. I could have tried and understand the goals and culture differences. By making an appointment the leader could have seen my side to the story and know the feelings that I have (Anstey, 1993). By talking about what the differences is, we could have get on the same page and achieve a better outcomes (Mason & Rychard, 2005, 6). By talking to the leader I could have jump from my position to the interest (Mason & Rychard, 2005, 1). While I was in the talking out of frustration I said what I wanted to have. If I made an appointment I could have discussed this openly with the leader and there could have been better understanding. I could have tell her what I really want instead on focusing on my