Individual Differences In American Culture

Everyday people are constantly constructing Gestalts about those they meet and interact with. People are trying to determine the sort of influence that you could potentially have on their life whether it be positive or negative (McCornack, Chap. 3, Constructing Gestalts). According to Amaeze, she has seen me as “dependable, caring, and kind”. Overall, Amaeze says that I’m “always willing to help others.” Reflecting on this, I think I am seen this way because I feel the need to meet others expectations of me. Although, I can’t help what everyone will think of me, I always want to leave a good impression. I strive to be that person you can come to whenever you are having problems. I desire to be that base of support to others. This stems all

In this type of culture the “we” is more important than “I.” The needs of the group are put before your own personal needs that are exhibited in individualistic cultures. Essentially, if we work together anything is possible because we are all here to help each other (McCornack, Chap.5, Individualism vs Collectivism). When it comes to family Amaeze has indicated that there, “is a very closeness within the family and I know that the bond you have with your parents and siblings is strong.” To me family is everything. They are what raises you up and keeps you going. If one is suffering I should be able to help them even if it means putting my own needs aside. For instance, there was a time that one of my parents was unemployed. So, at the time money was tight and only one parent was working. I was in college at the time and working. So, to alleviate the financial strain, I took out loans for my education and tried to pay for most of my expenses myself. That way they could focus less on me and more on my siblings and themselves. I choose to put aside asking my parents for my needs for the betterment of my

To the point that Amaeze has noticed that i can be “very hard on myself.” As soon as something doesn 't go as planned i shut down and let it impact me negatively. I tend to focus on everything i did wrong in that moment. For instance, one day at my job i messed up this huge order. None of my coworkers took it badly because we were extremely busy that day. It was easy to see how this mistake could have happened. However, because i felt that i was the sole reason of the mistake i retreated into myself. I wouldn’t hear otherwise. All i knew that i was the sole cause of it, and i proceeded to berate myself for the rest of the day. I felt that because of my actions others saw me as inadequate or incapable of handling the job at hand. Since, i know that personally i could have been more attentive. I didn’t want anyone to think less of my skills. Our self-concept is determined by our beliefs and how others tend to view us. In this instance, I started redefining myself concept based on how i thought others saw me based off what the problems that I created. ( McCornack, Chap.2,