To be worried in this situation is definitely agreeable. Your son should not be getting married to someone who he feels he has no equality with. He should be able to go out without the risk of being followed, and also without the risk of being harassed about where he is. He should be able to not pick up his phone every once in a while, too. A husband/wife should make his/her partner feel comfortable and relaxed, not the opposite. This is a hard situation for you to be in. I am sure you do not want to marry your son off to a woman who makes him act inferior in order to avoid a fight, but you also do not want to make choices for him. In this case, I think you did the best possible thing by expressing your concern about the situation, but then …show more content…
Emotional abusers often intimidate their victims, as your son’s fiancé did to him. While your son wanted to slow things down in the relationship, he chose to instead agree to his fiancé’s engagement, in an attempt to avoid a confrontation with her. In a healthy relationship, he would have felt comfortable expressing his dislike to the idea of an engagement. She also acted through intimidation when she refused to release his car window in an argument in order to allow it to persist. On top of this, she followed him into that parking lot, which is stalking. Physical abuse is when the abuser uses a physical force to cause pain to the victim. Your son’s fiancé did just this when she hit your son in the chest. In a healthy relationship, she would be able to argue without laying a hand on him. Digital abusers often harass their victims through texting or other social networks. Your son experiences this every time he fails to pick his phone up in time and is harassed about his reasons why he could not pick up. These multiple signs of abuse point to the fact that your son has no power or control in his relationship, which he needs for it to be considered healthy and