In his book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. John Gottman writes that “fondness and admiration are two of the most crucial elements in a rewarding and long –lasting romance”(Gottman, 69). It is the belief that a relation with your spouse is defined by fondness and admiration and also your spouse is worthy of honor and respect. This principle refers to having respect and appreciation of the partner’s difference in opinion (Gottman, 71). According to Gottman, fondness and admiration are core elements in ensuring that romance lasts long enough to save a marriage. Furthermore, marriage can be saved if its aspect of fondness and admiration are still functional (Gottman, 68). In the time of destruction, therefore, they still …show more content…
Married couples who love each other are better connected to the larger community, including, family, in-laws and church members who provide social support and material benefits. In general, marriage encourages people to have strong family values and improves the quality of living. Marriage is an extension of families and community. Prager explains that getting married means changing your title from a significant other to a husband or from a temporary to permeant partner. It means that we bring people who are important to them to witness their happy day. Dennis Prager, "Five Non-religious Arguments for Marriage over Living Together “, “It manes that we have decided to bring all these people we love into our lives. It means we have a legal obligation to one another. It means my family becomes your and yours becomes mine” (Prager 411). Marriage is a fundamental building block to building a family and society. Certainly, marriage brings families and communities together. Marriage helps to build a stable society that provides for the orderly raising of the next generation. Therefore, happy and long lasting marriages are also connected to bigger …show more content…
Now that I realize how important this is to keep families together, this is something that I have only been aware of until I read the book on the seven principles for making marriage work. However, I hope to communicate directly by actively identifying positive qualities I find in my husband and children and remembering the good time instead of focusing the current crisis we go though at times. This will not only make me a better wife and mother in developing my relationships with my family, but also a better person who can build stronger relationships with others and keep a happy and a long lasting