Modern Transactional Analysis Theory 4.2 Child Alter Ego

1 4 Life positions
People’s opinions differ from each other and will cause a certain amount of conflict between them that manifest themselves as an individual’s thoughts, feelings, and behaviours (Berne, 1964). He defined transactional analysis as “the method for studying interactions between individuals”, and identified three alter ego states that are present in every person, namely the parent, child and adult that is briefly described below.
4.1 Parent
This type of behaviour is the result of our upbringing and education during the first five years of life and is evidenced by anger or impatient body language and expressions and words such as always, never and other words of a critical nature (Berne, 1964). Modern transactional analysis theory

(Berne, 1964). Similar to the parent, modern transactional analysis theory also divides the child into the Adapted and Free child each with positive and negative aspects as depicted in Figure 2 below: Figure 2: Modern Child (Mountain Associates, 2010)
4.3 Adult
The 'Adult' analyses data and interactions and then decides what action or reaction to take to appropriately transact with other people and in order to change our Parent or Child we must do so through our Adult (Berne, 1964). Berne (1964) describes the behaviour of the adult sa being attentive, interested, straight-forward asking questions such as why, what, how, who, where and when, how much, in what way and making comparative expressions and reasoned statements.
4.4 My P.A.C. profile
Performing an online Egogram test revealed a lower than average or weak adult with strong parent and child dimensions as depicted in Figure 4 below (Transactional-Analysis,

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