Joining the emotional dots An area that I feel I need to develop is my emotional intelligence, not just to benefit my organisations in future but also my response to changes, events and the world around me. When reflecting and discovering my social anxiety I also realised I suffer heavily from cognitive distortions, when something goes wrong either at work or in day to day life I will mentally jump to the worst possible conclusion no matter how seemingly small the problem is. It’s something that I am treating as a priority to work on as it causes me a lot of unnecessary distress and floods my head with negativity in times when I need to be thinking the most clearly. Because of this I can relate strongly with the leaders in the case study …show more content…
In either case, they are paying too much attention to their internal chatter and allowing it to sap important cognitive resources that could be put to better use… But when we ask how long the challenges have persisted, the answer might be 10 years, 20 years, or since childhood’ (2013, p. 126). David et al states that to get ‘unhooked’ from these feelings and emotional responses is to first recognise your patterns and label them ‘just as you call a spade a spade, call a thought a thought and an emotion an emotion… Labelling allows you to see your thoughts and feelings for what they are: transient sources of data that may or may not prove helpful’ (David & Congleton 2013, p. 127), and once labelled I can take a moment to accept and experience them, take 10 deep breaths, think logically and calm myself, this process will free up my internal thoughts and processes (David & Congleton 2013). Before realising my social anxiety I was unaware just how much I closed myself off around unfamiliar people and did not express my true self, when I have my guard up it can cause an issue with trust, both for me not trusting others and how others see me. Cuddy et al states